The hubby and I got a date night. It wasn't very long and we didn't do anything very exciting, but we got to get out of the house by ourselves and didn't have to worry about being anywhere.
We haven't had a date night in a really long time. I don't even remember when it was. Even though grandma and grandpa (only people we let watch the kids, except for Nana and papa when they go down there) live so close we try not to ask them too much ;) They usually watch them when we have pool tourneys or if we HAVE to be somewhere by our selves.
Friday night and Saturday during the day the hubby had to play in a team pool tournament. When Dan got home Saturday evening he asked if I wanted to go out on a date while grandpa and grandma came over and watched the kids for a little bit. I said, ya that sounds good since I had been stuck in the house for 2 days.
We went to eat at one of our favorite places, Chipotle. It is nothing fancy, but it is our favorite place. We walked over to the movie theatre, which was about 4 blocks from where we parked. Exercise, I guess ;) We watched a comedy. We were debating between "American Reunion" or "Think Like a Man." We chose "Think Like a Man." It was funny. Hard to eat all your popcorn when you just stuffed yourself with a huge ass burrito.
Archive for April 2012
Sunday, Keira had her cheer competition. It was super cute!
Sorry, some of them are a little blurry. I don't like looking at other people's blurry pictures, but that's as good as I could get, being that far away.
Bandit was our kitty that we got the kids for Christmas. Bandit was only 10 months old. Something happened to him this weekend. We had to rush him to the vet. The vet told us that he would be better off put to sleep, so that's what we decided so he didn't have to suffer anymore.
When we leave the house, Bandit likes to sit inside by the garage door and wait for us to come home. When we come inside we have to be extra careful that he doesn't go out into the garage because he is an inside cat and can't go outside. So, usually we have to come inside and shut the door quickly or he gets nosey and wants to stick his head out the door. We came inside, he was sitting there waiting for us, like usual. Thought he went up stairs with everyone else because he wasn't in his spot anymore. Shut the door pretty hard, because it was windy and Bandit was poking his little head out the door being his nosey self and got his head slammed in the door. He was bleeding and barely breathing.. (none of the kids saw this because they were all upstairs by now). I was frantic after I saw all the blood. Dan moved him into the garage, so we could get him a towel to lay on while we transported him to the vet. Dan took him to the vet and they said he had severe brain damage and was blind. They could do surgery, but he would be blind and wouldn't be himself anymore, so they suggested to put him to sleep so he wouldn't suffer anymore.
We only had him for 4 months, but it felt like we had him forever. He fit into our little family like he was born here. The kids loved him and he was so gentle to them. Every night while the kids did their bedtime routine, he would go into Keira and Aden's room (share a room) and lay on Aden's bed (bottom bunk) and wait for them to come in and get tucked in. After the covers were on Aden, he would lay at his feet and wait for him to go to sleep. When he thought Aden was okay, he would go up to the top bunk where Keira sleeps and check on her and make sure she was ok. I found this out because I went into their room one night about 10 minutes after I laid them down to check on them and Bandit was laying on Aden's feet, he then got up and climbed onto the top bunk, walked over to Keira's head, sniffed her then walked back down by her feet and laid down. When he knows they are both sleeping and are okay, he would come down stairs and come lay on my lap, like he was letting me know that the kids were okay. It was just amazing to watch. He did this every night. Taygen's door is closed at night, so he couldn't go in there, but if he heard her talk, he would go sit in front of her door.
I think this is harder on me than it is the kids. Dan and I sat down and told the kids last night after the emergency visit to the vet and told them that Bandit wouldn't be back that he was going up to Heaven with other animals and people to watch over them and make sure everyone up there is okay. Keira didn't cry at all. The only thing she said was, "If he's in Heaven then he is okay?" "That's a good place for him, because God will take care of him." and she doesn't want another animal because she doesn't want anything to happen to it. Aden wanted another kitty just like Bandit. We told the kids we are not getting another animal for a little while.
Last night and today was so hard. Last night when I was putting Taygen to bed, I thought I saw Bandit walk into her room in the corner of my eye, of course, I lost it. Then the hubby had his fountain drink on the table while we were watching T.V. and I thought I saw Bandit come up the stairs, like he always does after he goes potty, but it was just the straw of his cup. I cleaned up his food dish last night and put that away. I was going to take out his litter box, but Dan did it for me. I had a plastic bag in my hand heading down stairs and Dan said, "What is that for?" I just lost it and started bawling and said it was for Bandit's litter box. He took it from me and did it himself. He is having a rough time too. He was the one to rush him to the vet and he was the one who had to see them put him to sleep.
I'm just glad he is not in pain anymore and he is with all his friends. I am grateful that Dan could be there with him. While they were putting him to sleep, Dan got to pet him and talk to him. Bandit wound up being blind, so he couldn't see Dan, but he knew daddy was there with him because he could hear his voice.
Just makes you think that anything can happen at any moment. Bandit you will be missed! We love you!
As most of you know, I am a Stay at home mom to my 3 beautiful children, 5 and under. The hubby works Monday-Thursday and doesn't get home until after 6:30 p.m. and by this time, I am just exhausted.
The other day he got home from work, we ate supper then I asked him if I could relax and take a bath. He looked at me and said, "Seriously?" That is not the response I was looking for, so I got offensive and this was our conversation.
Me: I have been home all day with the kids and just want to relax, have some me time, be alone and do nothing.
Him: Well, what about what I want to do?
Me: What do you want to do?
Him: Nothing
Me: (By this time I was furious, but said in a calm voice) You make a big deal about wanting to do something and now you are saying you don't want to do anything.
Him: I just want to do nothing. Meaning, I work all day, just like you do. Come home and play with the kids. I just want to sit and do nothing sometimes.
Me: Oh, ok.
Here I am sitting here being selfish, wanting my time, when he is at work all day, comes home and is expected to play with the kids and help around the house. I am writing this as I reflect back on what he said and the meaning behind it.
I found this article on Moms Every day asking if there are any negative affects on blogging with children. As a parent and a blogger myself, I was really interested in this article. If someone would have asked me the same question, being in the Psychology field, I would have said the exact same thing. While, other people may have different ideas, I totally agree with this writer, also in the psychology field.
In my opinion, it is the information inside of the blogs that you write about. Also, it is the amount of time you spend on the computer doing your blogs! If you are a mom who is on the computer only about an hour a day then that is okay. But, on the other hand if you are constantly on the computer in front of your children, that is sending a different story...It can come across as ignoring them, you have something better to do than play with your child, you don't have time for them, it's okay for mom to sit on her butt all day and play on the computer, so it's okay for me to do it...just a few negative things about being on the computer or blogging for more than an hour a day.
If you want to get the most effective use of your blogging time about your children. Do it before they wake up or at night when they go to bed, so you are not taking any valuable time away from your children. Also, if you can get away with at your work, then I would encourage doing that.
Of course, blogging, talking and bragging about your children can have positive influences on your children if you let them know what you are doing and show them your blog in the future.
I used to be one of these people of society that were negative about glasses. I wasn't negative about them towards other people, because I actually think some people do look really cute in glasses, I was negative towards myself because I thought I looked funny, so I thought other people would think the same thing.
I am supposed to wear glasses, but instead I wear my contacts because I think people are going to make fun of me when I wear my glasses, calling me a nerd or how funny or weird I look with my glasses on. Even though I am told all the time by my hubby and other friends and family that I look cute, but you know how people are...they only tell you things that you want to hear. Sadly, it is like that for every part of life.
For Keira's 3rd year well child check, they gave out free eye exams. I didn't want to have Keira's eyes checked, yes, even though it was free, because I didn't want to face the fact that she might need glasses at the age of 3 or 4. Not because I didn't want her to have them, but because I know what society is like and there are a lot of cruel people, especially kids! I know, I used to work as a child treatment specialist. Unfortunately, I have seen how cruel kids can be to other kids and it's not fun.
After I have seen the glasses on her and how excited she is about wearing them and showing them off, I am very excited about what her future might hold while wearing her glasses. I am also seeing that her friends are very accepting of her and ask her all kinds of questions about her glasses, almost like they want their own glasses ;0
Even though society can be cruel, sometimes you just have to accept change.
Keira got her glasses today. She was so excited. The eye place called while she was in school, so I decided to surprise her when I picked her up. I didn't tell her where we were going, but I told her we had a surprise for her. It was cute because Aden knew where we were going but wouldn't tell Keira despite her many tries of begging ;)
We pulled up to the building and knew it was the eye place.We went inside and they gave her the glasses, she tried them on, but they had to do some adjustments she finally got them and got a little purse/case for them.
She knows when she is supposed to take them off and knows that she has to wear them all the time. I thinks she looks beautiful! orrr more beautiful and she is so excited to show everyone she sees.
It's hard to believe Keira is still in preschool. I had a good conference. The teachers continue to be impressed with her. She is "above and beyond" what she needs to be. Her teachers think she will be in the "gifted" program in kindergarten and many years to come. I don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing.
She is reading beyond her grade level. They don't even start testing reading until at least 1st grade (what the teachers said). Her teachers said that she sat down one day and read to her class. She reads herself all the time to us, but to sit in front of a group of people and read really surprised me because she gets that shy attitude and usually doesn't do it after she gets embarrassed.
I'm very proud of my children and I am not afraid to show it or talk about it. My children teach me new things every day and for that I am very thankful for being a stay-at-home-mom, so I can be home to watch all the magic!
